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WOMAN. When you look up the definition of a woman in the dictionary, you will find several definitions such as: a female worker, an adult female, and a woman belonging to a particular category.

As women, we find ourselves wondering what our worth is, where we belong, and where we truly fit in. Scripture tells us one thing but the world screams something completely different at us.

Let’s look at the definition of a woman that God gives us from the very beginning.

“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” -Genesis 2:18

When you think of the word “helper” what image is brought forth? An assistant? A maid? P.A. (Personal Alalay)?

God has called women to be so much more than a “helper”.

A more accurate translation of the commonly used “helper” is “helpmeet”.

The Hebrew word Azar/Ezer is translated as help and the word Kenegdo as Meet.

Just like Eve, the Lord created every woman with a purpose. The recognized absence of Eve was the first time God said something was not good. He saw a need for her; a role that could not be filled by man.

Today’s generation, TV, media, books, and magazines have taken what a woman is suppose to be & changed her into what they want her to be.

We see pictures of different women in the magazines, billboards and begin to wish we looked just like with them. We forget that those women have makeup artists that fix them up daily, make their hair seem perfect, and computers that photo shop their face and body to meet the worlds “perfect image” of a woman. We start losing our identity, hence forgetting our worth because we strive to add up to what society wants us to be instead of who God created us to be.

When we lose our identity in Christ, we begin to try and find it in other things and places. One of the places that I see so many young girls/women striving to find their identity in is men. Women become emotionally attached quickly, it’s part of our makeup. We want to nurture people, including ones who treat us terribly. We have forgotten how God has called men to treat us because again, the world tells us something completely opposite of scripture.

Scripture says: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, they become ONE flesh.” -Genesis 2:24

Let me ask you something: are you going to go around verbally abusing yourself all the time? Most likely your answer is no. If a man is ONE with you that means you are as much a part of him as he is a part of you. He shouldn’t be verbally, physically, or emotionally abusing you.

Obviously one flesh means marriage, so what about dating?

A guy should be dating you with purpose. So many times a guy and girl decide they like each other and start dating without ever asking themselves where they want their relationship to go and most of all how they’re going to get it there.

When a guy dates you without any purpose you’re both setting yourself up for temptation, heartache, and voids. It sounds harsh, but it’s truth.

There are times women are willing to lower their standards and throw their morals out the window, forgetting their worth because they begin idolizing the idea of a relationship.

So what is your worth?

Jeremiah 1:5 says: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart;”

God set you apart before you were ever formed in your mother’s womb. He knew you and ordained purpose over your life.

I had one serious relationship before and because he is not the man God had ordained to be my husband, my vision became clouded. I could not hear everything God was trying to tell me because I was too busy pouring out into relationship that was not even with the person I would one day marry.


Ephesians 2 tells us that God seated us in heavenly places with Him. That He raised us up from our trespasses.

All the sin you have ever committed or will ever commit was laid onto Christ when He hung on that bloody tree for you. He chose to blot out your sins and seat you in heavenly places with Himself. How gracious and merciful is that? How much more does that portray the purpose God has specifically placed over you and your life?

Let’s dig a little deeper into relationships. I believe there are specific things a boy/man can tell you that you need to recognize as a lie. So let’s look at those things & replace them with truth.

Lie #1: We’re going to get married anyway, so it’s okay for us to have sex.

Truth: “It is Gods will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable;” -1 Thessalonians 4:3-4

So many times, we get attached to the boy in the beginning that we find it hard to leave the boy that comes out in the middle of the relationship. Boys realize you have become attached and start feeding you lies hoping you’ll remain with them.

Lie #2: You are worthless.

Truth: “Since you are precious and honored in my sight..” -Isaiah 43:3

Sometimes guys become verbally abusive. They try to belittle your worth, making you feel worthless. They hope that in attempts to make you feel worthless you will stay in the relationship in hopes to build your worth back up in their eyes.

Your Creator finds you to be precious and honored in His sight, don’t let a boy or anyone else tell you differently. You were so worth it to God that He laid His one and only Son’s life down for you. That’s how worth it you are.

Lie #3: You aren’t good enough.

Truth: For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. -Psalm 139:13-16

It says “wonderful are Your works”. You are one of God’s works, which means you are wonderful. You ARE good enough to be treated well.

One other thing I want to address is patience. I see a lot of women settle for less than who God has for them because they’re tired of waiting, or they feel that there are no good men left in the world.

I encourage you to pray about where God has you right now. Learn to be content in your season. Tell God that you desire a husband, but that you first want to become content in Him. God is your FIRST love. Isaiah 54:5 says that God is your Husband. Become one with Christ before you try and become one with someone else.

“Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” -Philippians 3:13-14

Forget your PAST mistakes, remember the purpose God has for you and strive forward to Him. He loves you, you are precious in His sight, and He longs to reveal to you your purpose and worth.


Your sweetest Melody, ❤



The Waiting

Single ka? Sus friend! Di ka nag-iisa! Napakarami mong karamay. Singleness doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom. Porket single ka lagi ka na lang mag-eemo at maiinggit sa mga nakakasalubong mong mga naka-HHWW (holding hands while walking). In fact, much can be gained from seasons of waiting. I’ve read some articles and blogs from other single women on how to stay focused on Christ while making the most of time spent alone—whether it be 20 minutes or 20 years. Game? Ano kaya mo pa?

 If I were to make a list of my least favorite things to do, I’m pretty sure waiting would rank in the top five. Minsan kasi nakakabagot naman talaga maghintay. There aren’t many things I enjoy less than remaining in that agonizing place of staring my hopes and longings in the face and wondering how, and when, and if God will ever allow them to come true. Tapos may nagtanong pa samin kagabi, “Paano mo malalamang naghihintay ang isang tao?” Umiikot yung isip ko kung ano ang isasagot ko……hayyy.

“Why doesn’t anything just happen for me?” I often find myself grumbling, tired of waiting, tired of trying to hang onto hope as the months, years slip away, and so many questions remain unanswered. I long for a breakthrough in a tedious career that does little to spark life in my heart. I struggle to find a meaningful purpose to center my life around. I wonder when God will finally bring the right man into my life to love and be loved by. So many times I’ve begged God to finally reach down from heaven and move, speak, act, shine a light on my path. But so often when I go to Him with my questions and restlessness, He doesn’t reveal anything instantly. Yes, He brings hope, He renews my faith, and He gives me strength to keep going. But in that gentle, quiet voice, He also speaks the words I’ve heard over and over again … my daughter, wait. Tapos isa pa ulit, … my daughter, wait. Paulit-ulit yang bulong sakin ni Lord.

And so I do. And as the years pass by, I’m finally beginning to realize it’s in these seasons of waiting and being still before God, pouring out my heart before Him, that He does some of His greatest work. It’s in the desert, the wilderness, the quietness that God can restore hope and vision and deepen my character. It’s in waiting that I get to know God’s heart more intimately and finally begin to realize He is my life.

Here are a few of the things I’m learning as I continue to walk through my own season of waiting.

1. Don’t try to do life alone.

There was a time when I struggled through life on my own, too scared and stubborn to let anyone in. Siguro dahil na rin sa mga nagging past experiences ko. Although meaningful relationships were the one thing I longed for above anything else, I was terrified of being rejected. And so I became a girl who never admitted a need, never burdened anyone with my problems. If there were tears to be cried, I cried to my friends but more often behind closed doors. If there were hurts and fears to be dealt with, I waited until no one else was around. I was the one everyone came to with their problems, but rarely would I risk letting them see the wounds in my own heart.

Thankfully God didn’t let me stay there, but it’s been a long, slow, painful (and scary) journey to realize we were never meant to walk through life alone, and that God actually designed some of His most powerful work to happen. If it’s growth, freedom, maturity, wholeness, and restoration we’re after—then people, the right people, are going to be one of the biggest tools God uses.

Sa schedule ko, I always find time to meet with my friends (Powerpuff Girls) and other churchmates and almost always I leave marveling at what God does as we get real with each other. Doubt, confusion, loneliness, questions, victory, heartache, joy, sickness, disappointment—every week we lay it all out in the open, we pray for it, we remind each other of the truth, we call out gifts in each other we see God developing. And as we do, our confidence is restored that God is working.

I don’t know how I lasted so long trying to do it on my own. But I see now that time spent waiting for God to shake things loose is never wasted if we’re staying vitally connected with people who help us not to lose sight of who God is and what He’s doing.

2. Look back at what God has done.

I’ve kept a journal and every now and then when God feels silent and it seems like nothing is happening, I’ll take out a volume or two of my messy scribbling and allow myself to be transported back over time. Yung mga notes kong inaanay na pero yung laman ay fresh na fresh pa rin. HAHAHA! I read, laugh, and shake my head, and somehow as I do, faith begins to seep back into my heart.

It’s so easy to lose perspective in a long period of waiting, but looking back and seeing God’s faithfulness gives me the courage I need to keep hanging on. If He’s already brought me this far, why should I doubt that He’ll keep leading me in the future? Why should I think He’s not going to finish the work He started? I’m like the Israelites wandering around in the desert, so quickly forgetting how God led them out of Egypt and across the Red Sea, giving them manna to eat and water to drink and rescuing them from their enemies. But I don’t want to lose sight of everything He’s done, even though right now the next thing seems so far away.

3.  Figure out what makes you come alive.

A few years ago I made a list of everything I want to do before I die—a list that ranges from sky-diving to writing a novel to learning to drive a motorcycle to going to Paris. I looked at the list the other day and was pleasantly surprised kasi yung iba ay nagawa ko naman na pala which is favor talaga ng Lord. Just like reading my old journals, my list keeps me in touch with who I am at my core, my unique personality and interests, the passions that make me come alive, the fears and challenges I’d love to overcome.

I’ve come to realize that even in waiting and wondering, our hearts can be alive and growing. Every day we can pursue joy and growth and opportunities to really live. That’s why I took a break from my busy schedules and went to UP Diliman with a friends, then had a jogging, talks and laughs with them in the park and listened to the sounds of nature. That’s why I often have my nephew over for sleepovers where we watch cartoons, eat insane amounts of chocolates, and giggle late into the night. That’s why I write and make blog – because these things, in their own small way, make my heart come alive. And as long as there’s life in my heart, I know I can keep waiting and trusting and hoping for the day when God will bring answers to the deeper questions I’m wrestling with.

4.  Learn to rest.

“Be still and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10). I can’t count how many times that verse has made me stop in my tracks and realize that all my hard work and all the self-help books in the world will never bring about the kind of lasting change I long to see in my life. And it takes God speaking those simple words for me to realize, again, that instead of laying out ten quick steps to becoming a godlier woman, instead of burdening me with more that I need to do, God is instead inviting me to rest. He’s instead calling me into relationship with Him, inviting me to get to know His heart and His character. He’s instead speaking to me of His love, of His delight in me, of His desire to sit with me for awhile and talk.

I’m so good at letting the trap of busyness consume me, at working tirelessly at every area in my life that I’m not satisfied with. But it’s only when I step back from all that hard work and finally rest that my thirsty soul is actually satisfied, and that peace and balance are restored to my striving, unrestful spirit. “Be still and know that I am God.” Okay, Jesus, I will.

Yes, the season of waiting is difficult. But our roots go down deep as we wait and trust and hope in God. So whether you’re waiting for guidance in a major decision, or waiting for a broken heart to heal, or waiting for love, or waiting for a clear career path to unfold, know that Jesus longs to walk with you right here, right now.

“This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It’s adventurously expectant, greeting God with a child-like ‘What’s next, Papa?'” (Romans 8:15, The Message)





Now that’s what I want to be known for in my season of waiting.

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Photo by: Author


In the photo: Shane, Me, Ces

Your sweetest Melody, ❤