Embrace the Single life

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Photo:Google Images

Your probably dreading today because you just got out of a bad relationship and you do not want to even think about your ex.  Are you avoiding social media because you could careless about the pictures couples are posting on facebook, instagram, or twitter professing their love for one another for the whole world to see? Although God may have told them not to be together. That is why you should never want what someone else has. You can avoid a lot of heartache and pain at the end. Yes, it may seem like everyone else around you is in a relationship but, that does not mean you have to give up on love.  God has not forgotten about you and He is your first love. Before you can love someone else, you have to find love in God. “We love because He first loved us” 1 John 4:19 Being single is probably not your first choice because if you had it your own way you would probably be with someone right now but, God has another plan for you.

 

EMBRACE THE SINGLE LIFE

 I enjoy being single. It’s been a blessing so far. I’m learning a lot about myself. I’m able to do things without always having to check up with someone. I’m traveling and singing all the time. I started blogging. I’m making decisions on my own. Becoming an independent woman, loving myself and not depending on a man to tell me I’m beautiful.  The greatest blessing about being single is falling in love with God. Spending time with Him is great! My relationship with Him is going strong each day. I’m in LOVE!!! More time with God, the more you grow!!! You’re not single because God is punishing you, your single because God wants you. There are times in your life you may have put your relationships before God. Remember, He is a jealous God. Sometimes He has to take away the distraction to get your attention. I’ve been in relationships and all of them did not work out. Why? Because…

 

God is writing my LOVE story

 The relationships I’ve had were my choice. I was tired of being single. I wanted to be in a relationship. So I settled. I wanted someone to love and to love me back, cuddle with, hold hands, share secret’s with, get Valentine gifts, share love stories etc. I was chasing more than waiting. The result in taking matters into my own hands lead to a BROKEN HEART. Not once did I go to God and ask Him if this what He wanted for my life.  We tend to get ahead of God when all He wants is for us to wait patiently on Him and His timing. Know what you want and stick to it. I hear a lot of women especially say “I want a good man!” but, settle for a bozo. If you want prince charming then wait on God’s timing to have prince charming. There are things God has to work on you as an individual so you can be ready for your future husband. There are also something’s God has to work on in your future husband before he can have you. You have a whole life ahead of you waiting for you to make a move. Focus on your career, go back to school, start a business, travel and see the world. You do not need a man to make you happy. Know that God loves you and He has great things in store for you. Fulfillment does not happen in a relationship. God is the only one that can fulfill all your needs. Let God continue writing your love story. When the ONE comes your stories together will be more than special. IT WILL BE WHAT GOD WANTED!!! Filled with His LOVE!!!

Before you marry a prince, you have to become a princess. Before you marry a princess, you have to become a prince.- Jackie Kendell

 

Today, if you do not have any plans, follow these lists.

  • Send yourself some flower’s.
  • Make Valentine’s Day cookies for yourself.
  • Buy yourself a gift that say’s I love you!
  • Go get a love movie and watch movies all night eating popcorn.
  • Smile!!!!!! :}}

 

 Your sweetest Melody, ❤

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Friendzoned: MALISYA o MALI-SYA?

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Photo by: Google Images

Kaibigan? Ano nga ba ang kaibigan?

Magkakaiba na nga siguro ang mga tao ngayon sa definition ng ‘kaibigan’. At ang pagkakaiba ay mapupuna mo sa pronunciation at actuation habang binibigkas ito. Napapaisip ka na nu?

Let’s experiment.

Step 1: Think of someone you’re honestly, really just friends with. Yung platonic. Talagang talagang talaga na friend lang ang turing mo. As in 0% malisya na kahit mag-zombie apocalypse ay di mo kaya pakasalan siya kahit kayo na lang ang tao sa mundo. Meron ka nang naisip? Kung oo, look at yourself in the mirror and say: “(insert name here) and I are just friends.”

Observe. Record data.

Analyze data. Make a hypothesis.
Step 2: Think of someone you’re ‘honestly’, ‘kinda’ just ‘special friends with’. Yung hindi platonic. As in may at least 10% malisya at tipong gusto mong mag-zombie apocalypse at kayo lang ang matitira para siguradong kayo na. Meron ka nang naisip? Nakangiti ka na? Namumula na ba cheeks mo? Now, look at the mirror and say:”(insert name here) and I are just friends.”

Observe. Record data. Compare data from step 1 & 2. Make a conclusion.

Di ba malaki ang pagkakaiba? Kahit pigilan mo, lalabas ang dimples mo, magniningning ang mata mo, pipintig ang sintido mo, maninigas ang panga mo dahil sa kakapigil mo ngumiti at magkukulay mangosteen ka kapag ginawa mo ang step 2. Kung sanay ka naman sa showbiz answer na ito, di mo maikakailang bumilis ang tibok ng puso mo nung sinabi mo ang pangalan niya. At kung babae ka, may mental image ka na parang hango sa background video ng videoke kung saan naghahabulan kayo, nagbabasaan, o nakahiga siya sa iyong lap habang binabasahan mo siya ng libro.

Kung sino ang may malisya, mali siya! Kaya nga “mali” sya eh. Kasi MALI. Dapat ang pag-iibigan ay mag-uugat sa pagkakaibigan. Pero huwag naman na kakaibiganin mo lang dahil nga target mo na. Hindi magandang pundasyon ng relasyon ang atraksyon. Lalo na kung pisikal. Kaya lang pala kinaibigan kasi naibigan. Kaya mag-isip ka kung may potential yung friend mo o kung friend mo kasi may potential.

Pero kung huli na nga ang lahat at tingin mo talaga ay may panganib na ma-friendzone ka dahil may amats ka na talaga sa ‘friend’ mo…Aba tanungin mo na yang sarili mo. Kaibig-ibig ba ako o kabig nang kabig? Huwag kang assuming at feeling close. Baka naman kaka-kabig mo, pinagbibigyan ka lang pala dahil nga kaibigan ka. Pero sa totoo lang, wala ka palang pag-asa. Ikaw din ang luluha. Sakit diba?

Ang mali kasi sa atin ngayon, kung kanino may intensyon, siya lang ang binibigyan ng atensyon. At yan ang pinagmumulan ng tensyon. Kaya ang solusyon, proper appropriation. Huwag paikutin ang mundo sa isang tao. Kahit special friend siya, marami naman diyang regular friends di ba? At isa ang sigurado. Pagdating sa friends, mas matibay ang mga regular sa special.

 

Remember this: Ang mundo ay umiikot dahil sa laws of space. At magsisimula ang pagguho ng mundo mo sa loss of space. Dahil nga umiikot na ang mundo mo sa kanya, ibinigay mo na rin sa kanya ang karapatang saktan ka, pahirapan, paasahin, tapak-tapakan, durugin at pulbusin. Ang hard diba?

 

Remember this: Ang regalong hindi ginusto, hindi huhusto. Kaya kahit ialay mo ang sarili sa kanya, kulang pa din. Kasi nga di naman niya hiningi na magpakamartyr ka. Hindi mo kailangan magpakabayani dahil ayaw niya maging mananakop ng puso mo. Mahalin ang sarili. Sabi sa Bibliya, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” (Mark 12:31). Ibig sabihin, ang limit ng pagmamahal na dapat mo ibigay ay yung pagmamahal mo sa iyong sarili. Kung wala kang respeto sa sarili mo, paano ka niya rerespetuhin e pumapayag ka naman na saktan ka, pahirapan, paasahin, tapak-tapakan, durugin at pulbusin. Kung magkaibigan PA LANG kayo, tandaan mong MAGKAIBIGAN LANG kayo! (capslock para intense!) Ibig sabihin, di pa kayo. Hinay hinay lang. Wag bibigay. At lalong higit, huwag kang magseselos kapag sa kanya’y may naugnay. Kailangan niyo pareho ng space. Kapag may loss of space, siguradong may friction. (O yan ha. Libreng physics review.) Kasi isinisiksik mo ang sarili mo sa kanya kahit di naman niya hinihingi. Kung di ka niya type, friction will cause heat. Iinit ang ulo niya sa iyo. Magsasawa kakatext, kakatawag, kakapost sa fb, twitter, at tumblr, at sa pakikialam mo sa buhay niya. Kung type ka naman niya, mamamagnetize niyo ang isa’t isa nang sobra sobra at masasanay kayo na laging magkasama. Kahit nakakakilig yan sa umpisa, hindi pa rin healthy in the long run. Instead kasi of depending on each other which is magtutulungan kayo at kakailanganin niyo ang isa’t isa for better improvement ay magiging dependent on each other kayo na parang di mo na kayang gumalaw ng wala siya kasi masyado ka nang naka-rely sa kanya. May difference diba? MALAKI ang pagkakaiba!

May mga kilala akong magkaibigan na nagka-ibigan at nagkatuluyan. Pero mas marami akong kilalang may kinaibigan dahil naibigan kaya ang ending ay kabiguan.

 

So I therefore conclude that you need to:

Check your motive. Isipin mong maigi. Gusto mo ba siya o gusto mo lang talaga ng love life?

Check your modus. Nagpanggap ka bang friend sa pagbabaka-sakaling mahulog siya sa iyo?

Check your mate. May pag-asa ka ba o polite lang siya?

 

Babala: Huwag mo lokohin ang sarili mo. Sa totoo lang, ang pinakamadaling kumbinsihin, lokohin, at utuin ay ang sarili natin.

 

Your sweetest Melody, ❤