WOMAN. When you look up the definition of a woman in the dictionary, you will find several definitions such as: a female worker, an adult female, and a woman belonging to a particular category.
As women, we find ourselves wondering what our worth is, where we belong, and where we truly fit in. Scripture tells us one thing but the world screams something completely different at us.
Let’s look at the definition of a woman that God gives us from the very beginning.
“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” -Genesis 2:18
When you think of the word “helper” what image is brought forth? An assistant? A maid? P.A. (Personal Alalay)?
God has called women to be so much more than a “helper”.
A more accurate translation of the commonly used “helper” is “helpmeet”.
The Hebrew word Azar/Ezer is translated as help and the word Kenegdo as Meet.
Just like Eve, the Lord created every woman with a purpose. The recognized absence of Eve was the first time God said something was not good. He saw a need for her; a role that could not be filled by man.
Today’s generation, TV, media, books, and magazines have taken what a woman is suppose to be & changed her into what they want her to be.
We see pictures of different women in the magazines, billboards and begin to wish we looked just like with them. We forget that those women have makeup artists that fix them up daily, make their hair seem perfect, and computers that photo shop their face and body to meet the worlds “perfect image” of a woman. We start losing our identity, hence forgetting our worth because we strive to add up to what society wants us to be instead of who God created us to be.
When we lose our identity in Christ, we begin to try and find it in other things and places. One of the places that I see so many young girls/women striving to find their identity in is men. Women become emotionally attached quickly, it’s part of our makeup. We want to nurture people, including ones who treat us terribly. We have forgotten how God has called men to treat us because again, the world tells us something completely opposite of scripture.
Scripture says: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, they become ONE flesh.” -Genesis 2:24
Let me ask you something: are you going to go around verbally abusing yourself all the time? Most likely your answer is no. If a man is ONE with you that means you are as much a part of him as he is a part of you. He shouldn’t be verbally, physically, or emotionally abusing you.
Obviously one flesh means marriage, so what about dating?
A guy should be dating you with purpose. So many times a guy and girl decide they like each other and start dating without ever asking themselves where they want their relationship to go and most of all how they’re going to get it there.
When a guy dates you without any purpose you’re both setting yourself up for temptation, heartache, and voids. It sounds harsh, but it’s truth.
There are times women are willing to lower their standards and throw their morals out the window, forgetting their worth because they begin idolizing the idea of a relationship.
So what is your worth?
Jeremiah 1:5 says: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart;”
God set you apart before you were ever formed in your mother’s womb. He knew you and ordained purpose over your life.
I had one serious relationship before and because he is not the man God had ordained to be my husband, my vision became clouded. I could not hear everything God was trying to tell me because I was too busy pouring out into relationship that was not even with the person I would one day marry.
Ephesians 2 tells us that God seated us in heavenly places with Him. That He raised us up from our trespasses.
All the sin you have ever committed or will ever commit was laid onto Christ when He hung on that bloody tree for you. He chose to blot out your sins and seat you in heavenly places with Himself. How gracious and merciful is that? How much more does that portray the purpose God has specifically placed over you and your life?
Let’s dig a little deeper into relationships. I believe there are specific things a boy/man can tell you that you need to recognize as a lie. So let’s look at those things & replace them with truth.
Lie #1: We’re going to get married anyway, so it’s okay for us to have sex.
Truth: “It is Gods will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable;” -1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
So many times, we get attached to the boy in the beginning that we find it hard to leave the boy that comes out in the middle of the relationship. Boys realize you have become attached and start feeding you lies hoping you’ll remain with them.
Lie #2: You are worthless.
Truth: “Since you are precious and honored in my sight..” -Isaiah 43:3
Sometimes guys become verbally abusive. They try to belittle your worth, making you feel worthless. They hope that in attempts to make you feel worthless you will stay in the relationship in hopes to build your worth back up in their eyes.
Your Creator finds you to be precious and honored in His sight, don’t let a boy or anyone else tell you differently. You were so worth it to God that He laid His one and only Son’s life down for you. That’s how worth it you are.
Lie #3: You aren’t good enough.
Truth: For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. -Psalm 139:13-16
It says “wonderful are Your works”. You are one of God’s works, which means you are wonderful. You ARE good enough to be treated well.
One other thing I want to address is patience. I see a lot of women settle for less than who God has for them because they’re tired of waiting, or they feel that there are no good men left in the world.
I encourage you to pray about where God has you right now. Learn to be content in your season. Tell God that you desire a husband, but that you first want to become content in Him. God is your FIRST love. Isaiah 54:5 says that God is your Husband. Become one with Christ before you try and become one with someone else.
“Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” -Philippians 3:13-14
Forget your PAST mistakes, remember the purpose God has for you and strive forward to Him. He loves you, you are precious in His sight, and He longs to reveal to you your purpose and worth.
Your sweetest Melody, ❤