Embrace the Single life

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Your probably dreading today because you just got out of a bad relationship and you do not want to even think about your ex.  Are you avoiding social media because you could careless about the pictures couples are posting on facebook, instagram, or twitter professing their love for one another for the whole world to see? Although God may have told them not to be together. That is why you should never want what someone else has. You can avoid a lot of heartache and pain at the end. Yes, it may seem like everyone else around you is in a relationship but, that does not mean you have to give up on love.  God has not forgotten about you and He is your first love. Before you can love someone else, you have to find love in God. “We love because He first loved us” 1 John 4:19 Being single is probably not your first choice because if you had it your own way you would probably be with someone right now but, God has another plan for you.

 

EMBRACE THE SINGLE LIFE

 I enjoy being single. It’s been a blessing so far. I’m learning a lot about myself. I’m able to do things without always having to check up with someone. I’m traveling and singing all the time. I started blogging. I’m making decisions on my own. Becoming an independent woman, loving myself and not depending on a man to tell me I’m beautiful.  The greatest blessing about being single is falling in love with God. Spending time with Him is great! My relationship with Him is going strong each day. I’m in LOVE!!! More time with God, the more you grow!!! You’re not single because God is punishing you, your single because God wants you. There are times in your life you may have put your relationships before God. Remember, He is a jealous God. Sometimes He has to take away the distraction to get your attention. I’ve been in relationships and all of them did not work out. Why? Because…

 

God is writing my LOVE story

 The relationships I’ve had were my choice. I was tired of being single. I wanted to be in a relationship. So I settled. I wanted someone to love and to love me back, cuddle with, hold hands, share secret’s with, get Valentine gifts, share love stories etc. I was chasing more than waiting. The result in taking matters into my own hands lead to a BROKEN HEART. Not once did I go to God and ask Him if this what He wanted for my life.  We tend to get ahead of God when all He wants is for us to wait patiently on Him and His timing. Know what you want and stick to it. I hear a lot of women especially say “I want a good man!” but, settle for a bozo. If you want prince charming then wait on God’s timing to have prince charming. There are things God has to work on you as an individual so you can be ready for your future husband. There are also something’s God has to work on in your future husband before he can have you. You have a whole life ahead of you waiting for you to make a move. Focus on your career, go back to school, start a business, travel and see the world. You do not need a man to make you happy. Know that God loves you and He has great things in store for you. Fulfillment does not happen in a relationship. God is the only one that can fulfill all your needs. Let God continue writing your love story. When the ONE comes your stories together will be more than special. IT WILL BE WHAT GOD WANTED!!! Filled with His LOVE!!!

Before you marry a prince, you have to become a princess. Before you marry a princess, you have to become a prince.- Jackie Kendell

 

Today, if you do not have any plans, follow these lists.

  • Send yourself some flower’s.
  • Make Valentine’s Day cookies for yourself.
  • Buy yourself a gift that say’s I love you!
  • Go get a love movie and watch movies all night eating popcorn.
  • Smile!!!!!! :}}

 

 Your sweetest Melody, ❤

Dressing modestly

Dressing modestly.

Dressing modestly.

Ate ano ba dapat ang suot pagpupunta ng church o paano manamit ang isang Christian?” Isa sa napaka-daming tanong ng little sister kong si Jean. Could you please give me some advice on how to dress modestly? Gusto ko nasa uso o nasa fashion pa rin. Gusto ko cool at comfortable but not at all sinful in the way I dress.

Mukhang challenge ito lalo na sa mga kabataan ngayon na ayaw pahuhuli sa mga in at patok na style ng pananamit ngayon. “Anything goes” ika nga nila.

Let’s be real. The Church does not view the human body as something ugly to be covered up. The body is beautiful. It is a work of God’s creation and in that it is good. In fact, it is only in and through the body that we can experience the spiritual realities of each other – because as people, we are spirit-body composite beings.

So, why the question of modest dress Ate Mhello? Why don’t we all just walk around naked like Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden? Kasi nga po, unlike the Garden of Eden before The Fall, there is now sin in the world – it is as simple as that. Kuha ba? We dress modestly to protect ourselves from the lustful looks of others. If sin were not an issue in the world, neither would dressing modestly be.

Reality check muna tayo: Men are stimulated visually much more easily than women. Have you ever noticed that immodest fashions are generally a problem for women? Men walking around in low-cut shirts really doesn’t do much for women. Laki ng pagkakaiba di ba?

What we are trying to achieve, in dressing modestly, is not to give rise to stirring lust in a man’s heart. We do not want to give our brothers a reason to sin. And while not all men will necessarily lust after a woman who is dressed immodestly, many men do.

Some men have learned to control this. They have either learned to look away or they have trained themselves to look at a woman with respect. “I have made a covenant with my eyes.” (Job 31:1) We need to pray for more men to be formed in such virtues.

Unfortunately, all men are not trained in virtue! Remember, di ka lang haharap sa mga katulad nating believer, mas marami kang makakaharap na unbeliever sa araw-araw. So, when choosing our clothing, as Christian women, I believe we have the responsibility of ensuring that our dress does not tempt men to sin. We do this out of love for our brothers, we do this out of respect for ourselves.

Joshua Harris says in his book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, that he knows many girls who would look good in tighter shirts and shorter skirts, but he appreciates the fact that they don’t choose clothes like that. This is a sign of respect for our brothers.

And, I saw this, saying “If you want a man to look up to you, don’t give him a reason to look down!” In dressing modestly we demonstrate self-respect. Again, self-respect mga ateng! When we show this kind of respect for ourselves, we can expect it from others – and we will usually get it, too!

So what clothes can you choose to wear, when many of the fashions for women are immodest? This is a real challenge! Kahit ako minsan nasusubok sa mga ganitong sitwasyon. Passion ko ang fashion. Mahilig akong pumorma. It is so hard to go into a store now a days and find something appropriate to wear. But it is possible – it just takes time and it often takes creativity! 🙂

You want something that enhances your natural beauty. You want something, lalo na ngayong summer at ang tindi ng init, you want clothes that keeps you cool but is not immodest. You want something that is in style.

So what are some general guidelines for modest dress? Simple advices ito na na-ishare ko kay Jean at ina-apply ko din sa sarili ko and I want it to share sa mga princesses of God.

  1. Do not wear clothes that are form-fitting. Tight fashions are really in, but they are also really immodest! If your pants don’t come up high enough (hipsters are the in-thing, now) then make sure your shirt goes low enough! (Say goodbye to the belly-button!)

 

  1. Avoid spaghetti straps and strapless garments. Here’s one creative way of being able to adapt a fashion. Put a light T-shirt on underneath the spaghetti strap top. Since this adds a layer of clothing, be sure to choose something light enough that it doesn’t get too hot. If you have a strapless garment, wear a light top over it to keep your shoulders covered appropriately. Choose light weight shirts – that are not see-through – if you want to stay cool in the summer. It is very distracting for a man to be able to see through a woman’s clothes.

 

  1. Wear appropriate undergarments. Don’t show cleavage! This is very stimulating to men and very distracting in women’s fashions. It is challenging for even the best of men to not have their attention drawn down when a woman is exposing her cleavage line.

 

  1. Don’t wear short-shorts and short-skirts. Dressing modestly requires us to cover ourselves appropriately. There are many styles of shorts that come down longer – and they look great. Skirts should come down far enough that bending over wouldn’t be an issue. Some would say at least to the knee, others would say two-inches or more past the knee. I am not going to pretend to be an authority on the issue.

 

One thing I do suggest is that when you get dressed to go out of the house, ask yourself this: If you were to run into Jesus walking down the street, would you feel comfortable with Him seeing how you are dressed? Remember, He does see you – for in “the least of your brothers” He is there.

Also, keep in mind that your body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit and that you want to adorn it appropriately, with beauty and grace. Clothe your heart in purity and it will be much easier to clothe your body in modesty.

I hope that these ideas help you in dressing modestly. I commend you for your sincere interest in wanting to do what is pleasing to the Lord. Be encouraged! Be confident! Walang ibang makakapagpaganda sayo kundi yung respetong ibibigay mo sa iyong sarili at sa ating Panginoon.

 

Your sweetest Melody, ❤