25 things I’ve learned so far and still trying to learn now

Life is beautiful.
Life is beautiful.

I am now in my quarter of a century old. Oh wow! It sounds odd to say out loud, for I feel much older. I am no longer in my early twenties and the depressing thing is everyone I know tells me how scary it is to turn 25.

Well, I beg to disagree. Turning 25 can be a positive experience. Forget what everyone has to say. It is not scary! You are so blessed to reach the beginning of a brand new year of life. You don’t turn 25 every day, so enjoy it while it lasts! So I’ll be sharing you here a list of 25 things I’m glad I’ve learned so far and still trying to learn now.

1. Life isn’t going to go the way you planned.
This is my number one for a reason. Realize that you may not end up where you thought you’d be by the time you hit 25. If you end up somewhere better, great! If not, it’s totally okay. Learn from any mistakes. Do the best with what you’ve got and keep moving forward.

2. Know how to budget.
Be serious about your savings account. Do simple taxes. Always have some kind of financial safety net. It doesn’t have to be big, even something small is better than nothing. We live in a crazy, uncertain world. Anything can happen and we don’t have control over much but take control of what you can and minimize the risk of unpleasant surprises.

3. Learn how to cook.
You don’t have to be a culinary artist but know the basics of cooking and baking. If you’re just starting out, pick a few simple recipes to master. Get some cookbooks or read some food articles. If your single and don’t wish to remain so, then cooking is definitely something you’re going to need to learn if you want to raise a healthy, happy family. Plus, eating in on a regular basis is always cheaper and healthier than constantly eating out. I learned that from my Mom.

4. You don’t need to hang out all the time.
Enjoy your friends but schedule time for a little solitarily. Talk to God, have a deeper conversation with Him, read a book, do something that can bring out the real you…be creative. Your brain will thank you. Believe me.

5. Travel while you are young.
You don’t need to be rich to travel while you are young. Find airfare promos ahead of time. It feels amazing to step out of your comfort zone and see wonders and amazing creations of our Creator. It will change your perspective and it will help you decide what you want in life.

6. Be a student.
You may think that when you finish your formal education you get to call it quits on the pencils and books. No, no! Graduation doesn’t mean the learning stops. Think about all the things you’ve always wanted to learn and figure out how to learn them. Whatever it is, make time to immerse yourself in what you’re passionate about.

7. Know when to shut up.
Don’t speak every thought that pops into your head. Mature adults know when to speak and when words are unnecessary. Don’t gossip or spread rumors. Think before you open your mouth and really practice listening to other people. You’ll develop better relationships, succeed professionally and get yourself in less trouble.

8. Have friends that are older than you.
I am surrounded with lots of older people in our home, in the office and in church. Having friends outside your age demographic challenges your brain and gives you broader perspective in life. I’ve learned that having older adult friends is one of the smartest things a young person can do. They’ve lived more of life than you and can speak wisdom into your life. Develop some relationships with adults who are older than you, it’ll be one of the best investments you’ll ever make.

9. Listen to your parents.
Yes, you’re an adult. Yes, you need the freedom to make your own decisions. But listen up. Your parents have done this adult thing for a bit longer than you have, pay attention to what they have to say. That doesn’t mean they’re always right or that you have to agree with everything they say. But give them a chance, they’ve got experience and that counts for a lot.

10. Keep house.
Whether you’re in a dorm, an apartment, or living with your parents, learn basic home economics skills. Learn to iron, do dishes, vacuum, wash clothes and clean a bathroom. There is more to adulthood than keeping a job. Learn all you can about running a household during whatever season you’re in now so you’ll be as ready as possible when the time comes.

11. Unplug every once in a while.
Put your phone down, step away from your computer, and turn off the TV. Log out, sign out, exit, shut down, and unplug. You won’t die. It’ll be there when you get back. FB statuses don’t always need updating, emails can be checked later. Go and check out life beyond the screen.

12. You should know that life is too short to worry all the time.
You are sitting there, a few weeks before your birthday, thinking, “Where have all the years gone?” Let me just say that it has gone by and whether we like it or not, we can’t turn back time. So stop worrying, start loving and appreciating future moments because life is too short for unnecessary things like this.

13. Kids are awesome.
I love kiddos and I’ve got lots of them in my extended church family. Thank God for giving me the privilege to be a Sunday school teacher. Learn that even in this tech-crazed world, a box of crayons and paper will still occupy the modern child. And when your budget won’t allow even the simplest gifts, your time and attention means a lot. Kids remember more than we give them credit for. Make friends with them and their parents now and you may be the trusted adult they go to when they need someone to talk to later in life.

14. Go to sleep.
Just because you know how to sleep late and function during the day doesn’t mean you should. This is one that I really struggle with. I love the solitude of the night and I’ve done some work during late hours. However, the truth of the matter is the best work is done when the mind is rested. So go to sleep at a decent hour, rise early and hit the ground running. Sleeping late is a bad habit.

15. Take care of your body.
Just like it needs sleep, your body needs good nutrition, hydration, and exercise to function best. Eat lots of fruits and veggies and drink lots of water. Find an exercise you enjoy and do it at least a few times a week. Limit your sugar and fat intake and don’t eat late at night. You will age more gracefully when you take care of your body when you’re young.

16. Know what you believe.
The world is noisy with sound of a million different philosophies, ideas, and opinions. Start with God and His word and you’ll have the best framework with which to build your worldview. He will always give you the right wisdom.

17. Know your limitations.
Youth is a great time to try new things, have adventures and step outside of your comfort zone. But know your limitations. It’s okay to say ‘no’. Be smart about your choices and don’t stretch yourself too far.

18. Singleness is a gift.
There is nothing wrong with being single. In fact, it’s a necessary season in life to figure yourself out. When you don’t have the distraction of other, you can get to know yourself, your passions, and your goals. Enjoy and make the most of your singleness.

19. Life isn’t fair and it doesn’t owe you a thing.
You are going to get used, betrayed and stabbed in the back. Sometimes the mess and hurt will be your fault and other times your best efforts will only earn you disappointment and heartache. But God is gracious and life will always be worth living no matter how hard things get. Take responsibility for your actions, work hard, take the bad with the good and learn how to get back up when you get knocked down.

20. Give a care.
Take genuine interest in the people around you. Don’t be nosy or get into people’s business but show that you care about and value them. Smile. Say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Offer to help when it’s needed. Care enough to give your best to others, your co workers, your family and friends, they all deserve your care. Give it freely and without condition. You’ll be a much happier person when you do!

21. There is difference embracing your inner-child and acting childish.
There are some things that shouldn’t change when we grow up like enjoying an afternoon at the park, a favorite childhood story, or a game with your nieces and nephews but take the best of childhood and pair it with the wisdom that should come with age. Don’t run around doing unnecessary things, not thinking of how it will effect other people. Don’t throw tantrums, toss around people’s feelings or be careless with other people’s things. That’s childish behavior and you should know better than that. Be responsible, say what you mean, and don’t sulk when things don’t go your way.

22. It’s not worth hanging on to clothes “just in case they fit”.
If your clothes don’t fit and all they do is make you feel cramped and uncomfortable, do. Not. Keep. Them! Trust me on this! All they will do is make you miserable. Do your self-confidence and your closet a favour and give away the clothes you don’t need.

23. It’s OK not to be OK.
We are all human, we all have emotions and sometimes, life just gets to us. It’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s okay to give yourself a break. It’s okay to surrender what you feel to God and have cry on Him. No one will think any less of you. God is always ready to listen on you.

24. Rejection is nothing to be afraid of.
I’ve finally realized that you cannot become successful in life if you’re not willing to risk screwing up. If the worst possible result that can come from pursuing what we want is failing, then there’s really nothing to be afraid of. I got so many rejections. But that is not the reason for you to give up. Look up! Don’t lose hope. Success only happens if you keep trying.

25. It really is best to be yourself. (Promise.)
No matter how popular, beautiful or successful the person you’re trying to emulate, is it impossible to be exactly like the object of your admiration, pursuing this unattainable “ideal” will only make you frustrated and blind to your own, unique beauty. We are fearfully and wonderfully made.

So if you’re going to turn 25, then take the opportunity to learn as much as you can before you hit the quarter-life mark. If you’re past 25, then take the opportunity to look at what you know and what you probably should know by now. Life is a cumulative journey and there’s always more to learn and more ways to improve. Embrace the best and live life to the fullest!

 

Your sweetest Melody, ❤

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Priceless Moments of 2014

Bye 2014!  Good morning 2015!

I have a lot of things to thank God for surviving another year with full of  ups and downs in life. I really enjoyed those times that He is molding me according to what He wants for me even though I made a lot of tears.

This past year was full of sorrow, surprises and joy. First, I did not passed my Civil Service Examination both April and October round but I totally trust God for His great plan. He knows the best for me. Then, before the year ends, God surprised me so much! He closed doors but He open the right one for me. What a great blessing for this 2015! Rumaragasa! Overflowing!

This year I have also met new people, literally a lot! 🙂 I found new friends, new officemates, new churchmates and of course my soulmate (Waaaa! Just kidding! Hahaha!) I treasured those memories with them even in a short period of time.

This year I’ve learned new things which helps me to improve myself and my spiritual life. God taught me a lot from those pains, disappointments, failures and lost. Walang sayang.

The most important things I am thankful for is my health, the health of my family and living in the land of opportunity.  When I watch the news or hear about other people’s struggles from my mother I know that God is looking out for me and my family. Today, the very first day of 2015, I am reflecting on the past year and praise God for all the blessings! Name it!

Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever. 1 Chronicles 16:34

I’ll share here  some of the great memories of 2014 that God allowed in my life to happen. My 2014 gives me so many “FIRST TIME” experiences! Praying and full of hope that God will make my 2015 another memorable one. #FeelingExcited. ^_____^

JANUARY

Lord of the Nations Anointing Service at Bayanihan.

A new and fresh start of the year.

Lord of the Nations Dance Ministry
Lord of the Nations Dance Ministry

 

FEBRUARY

Family date during Valentine’s day.

Lovestruck Convergence at Cuneta Astrodome and LOTN Couples Night happened in same date.

A day full of learnings and love. ❤

First time to have a dinner date with them. Best time ever! ❤
Lovestruck people. New found friends. (Kuya Vinci, Kuya Erick, Kuya Marlon)
A night full of love with these young people.

MARCH

Young Professional’s night swimming and my first ever mountain hike at Mt. Batulao. Then Tagaytay night experience.

I thank God for all those people I’ve shared the joy and new experiences! Priceless.

A lot of joy and laughter with my YP friends.

 

First time sa Sky Ranch.
First time sa Sky Ranch.

APRIL

Celebrated our 2nd Friendsary (Powerpuff Bessies), PSA -BAS Sportfest, LOTN Camp Meeting – A Season of New Beginning, Youth Factor 7 Standout.

Another year to cherish and to treasure.

A personalized cake for us. Yiiie! <3
A personalized cake for us. Yiiie! ❤
My college friends, officemates and project team members.
My college friends, officemates and project team members.
Photoshoot during last day of our Camp Meeting.
Photoshoot during last day of our Camp Meeting.
First time umattend ng Youth Factor.
First time umattend ng Youth Factor.

MAY

A simple celebration but unforgettable day of my 23rd of existence and my 2nd year in dance ministry. I also had an opportunity to be part of our Bible Training Center.

I thank God for giving me another year to finish my purpose. Forever the glory and honor is to Him and I thank  the Lord Jesus for blessing me in every aspect.

Surprised birthday celebration with my Ates and Powerpuff Bessies.
Surprised birthday celebration with my Ates and Powerpuff Bessies.
Graduation day. First time to enter in a Bible class.
Graduation day. First time to enter in a Bible class.

JUNE

A new member of our family, baby Luke. Another memorable day for Bureau of Agricultural Statistics as celebrating its last year before  turning as Philippine Statistics Authority.

A new life and a new beginning given by God.

Baby Lucas John during his 1st day in the outside world.
Baby Lucas John during his 1st day in the outside world.
Jumpshoot before going on stage for an intermission number. First time magdance sa Bureau.
Jumpshoot before going on stage for an intermission number. First time magdance sa Bureau.

JULY

The manifestation of God’s glory! I am so blessed and I cannot even explain the great presence of  God during that time. REVIVED, REBUILD, RESTORED from Ms. Monica Shiena Sagad, LOTN-Youth Pastor.

This is a priceless moment with my fellow dancers from different chapters.

Candid shoot during Word of God. Intense!
Candid shoot during Word of God. Intense!

AUGUST

Rhythm of the Heart plus Sa’yo Ibinabalik ang lahat ng Papuri album launching of Lord of the Nations Church.

I was really inspired by the lives of those people behind that album. From song writers, the melody, the arrangement and of course the singers. Thanking God for their talents and for giving Him the highest praise and worship.

Photshoot with my fellow servants of God after the victorious concert.
Photshoot with my fellow servants of God after the victorious concert.

SEPTEMBER

Lord of the Nations-Pandacan Chapter 7th year anniversary.

I feel blessed with the church having united in serving God after facing different situations.

With our little drummer boy, Israel.
With our little drummer boy, Israel.

OCTOBER

A Day of Freedom-Lord of the Nations 13th year anniversary at Cuneta Astrodome. Show of Force – Pastoral Conference at Tagaytay City.

This is the day that the Lord has made! My heart was full of joy and gladness with these God-given opportunities.

First time to dance using the big wings.
First time to dance using the big wings. What a privilege!
Photoshoot with these forever blessed and highly favored people.
Photoshoot with these forever blessed and highly favored people.
During Pastoral Conference with my old and new found friends.

NOVEMBER

Baguio City moment with my family.

A very memorable day sharing love, laughter and precious time with my love ones! Every seconds was priceless.

Exploring the City of  Pines with my cousins.
Exploring the City of Pines with my cousins.

DECEMBER

PSA-BAS Christmas Day. Meeting different people close to my heart from old to new. Christmas time with my family.

I treasured those people came into my life this 2014 and I am looking forward for another years with them.

 

First time to show my secret talents to the PSA-BAS world.
Last minute Christmas bonding with the people I love.
Last minute Christmas bonding with the people I love.
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Best moment to end the year with my Family! ❤

For one year, I’ve stored so many memories but I cannot even put them all here in the post but what’s important is that it will FOREVER be in my heart. Keeping them save and no one can snatch. Thank you for all the people I’ve shared my joy, tears, sadness and trials. You know who you are. 🙂 People who taught me and bring me closer to God, you are such a blessings to my life guys! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤ Even to those people I can’t personally say thanks, God knows how grateful I am to have you all.

Let us all close our eyes, say a warm goodbye to the year 2014. Thank God for everything that He has given us, ask for forgiveness for all our mistakes and at last, wish for an even better year 2015.

Kita-kits again! See yah!

Photo credits: Mr. Melvin Carson, Ms. Sarah Jane Ruiz, LOTN Friends and BAS Friends. Thanks guys!

Your sweetest Melody, ❤

Oceans (Where Feet May Fail)

In oceans deep, my faith will stand
In oceans deep, my faith will stand

 

This year around April, I heard “Oceans” by Hillsong United for the first time. This song has been taking me to realities of such a radical trust in my heavenly Father that I never have experienced before. With each verse, I know the Lord spoke directly to me and just this week where I struggle a lot and I felt like drowning and giving up, He brought “Oceans” back to me several times.

“Will your faith stand in the oceans deep?” The question I ask to myself and I remember the story when Jesus called Peter out of the boat.  As long as Peter kept his eyes on Jesus, he was able to walk on water.  But the minute he took his eyes off of Jesus, He began to sink.

Let’s go to Mathew 14: 28-33 NIV

“Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water. “Come,” he said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!” Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?” And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. Then those who were in the boat worshiped him, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.” 

It is when we take our eyes off Jesus that we begin to sink into our circumstances and lose our peace.  But when we keep our eyes focused on Jesus the peace that surpasses all understanding in the midst of the hardest places is manifest.

And I will call upon Your name and keep my eyes above the waves
When oceans rise my soul will rest in Your embrace
For I am Yours and You are mine

Your grace abounds in deepest waters
Your sovereign hand will be my guide
Where feet may fail and fear surrounds me
You’ve never failed and You won’t start now

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest”.

Mathew 11:28 NIV

Will You go to Him?  Will You trust Him even in the midst of the toughest places? Keep asking God to bring us deeper in faith with Him, no matter where He leads us. Step into the place of freedom from anxieties, the place of resting in His embrace!

 I encourage you to take a few minutes and listen.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dy9nwe9_xzw

My prayer:

Spirit, lead me where my trust is without borders
Let me walk upon the waters wherever You would call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander and my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Savior.

In Jesus’ name AMEN.

 

Your sweetest Melody, ❤